Becoming - Internal transformation
In 1997, Iris Krasnow published a book entitled "Surrendering To Motherhood." This book is a good illustration of what I mean by the concept of Becoming. The author tells of her life prior to becoming a mother and then a gradual change that began to occur after she had been a mother for a few years. Like many people, today, Iris Krasnow, thought that she could accomplish anything and everything simply by constantly juggling and using coping techniques. But unlike many people, she learned that juggling and coping means that you end up doing nothing well. The decision she made was "Becoming" a mother.
When we speak of "Becoming" we are not talking about something that you do or join. For example, we are not speaking of joining a political party or a religious organization or a social club, such as becoming a Democrat, becoming a Catholic or becoming an Elk. Nor are we speaking of something that you do such as becoming a mother by giving birth.
In the K.B.L.T. model, "Becoming" refers to internal changes. These changes may include changes of desires, changes of purpose, changes of beliefs, changes of loyalties and many other mental changes. For the perosn who is seeking cohesion and integration, these changes are interdependant and objective oriented. Which changes are needed is determined by the desired ideal which this person envisions.
It is a mistake to refer to this as "Become," because the fact is that few, if any people ever truly acheive their ultimate ideal. Rather "Becoming" refers to the continual process of internal transformation towards the ideal.
Becoming is not about flawless adherence to your resolutions. It is very likely that for every three steps forward you may find yourself taking one, two or even three steps backwards. Becoming is about persistence. Becoming is about holding yourself accountable but also about forgiving yourself and rededicating yourself to the pursuit of your ideal.
Engaging in honest self-assessment and a willingness to persist in spite of setbacks is one key to long term development.
In the next article, we will examine the Strength of Becoming.
becoming personal development transformation resolve resolution accountable coping persistence ideal integrity cohesive
When we speak of "Becoming" we are not talking about something that you do or join. For example, we are not speaking of joining a political party or a religious organization or a social club, such as becoming a Democrat, becoming a Catholic or becoming an Elk. Nor are we speaking of something that you do such as becoming a mother by giving birth.
In the K.B.L.T. model, "Becoming" refers to internal changes. These changes may include changes of desires, changes of purpose, changes of beliefs, changes of loyalties and many other mental changes. For the perosn who is seeking cohesion and integration, these changes are interdependant and objective oriented. Which changes are needed is determined by the desired ideal which this person envisions.
It is a mistake to refer to this as "Become," because the fact is that few, if any people ever truly acheive their ultimate ideal. Rather "Becoming" refers to the continual process of internal transformation towards the ideal.
Becoming is not about flawless adherence to your resolutions. It is very likely that for every three steps forward you may find yourself taking one, two or even three steps backwards. Becoming is about persistence. Becoming is about holding yourself accountable but also about forgiving yourself and rededicating yourself to the pursuit of your ideal.
Engaging in honest self-assessment and a willingness to persist in spite of setbacks is one key to long term development.
In the next article, we will examine the Strength of Becoming.
becoming personal development transformation resolve resolution accountable coping persistence ideal integrity cohesive
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