Religious people have it easy when it comes to dealing with the difference between wrong and Wrong. For religious people, some things are Sin and therefore Wrong, while other things are not sin, but are foolish or inefficient or ineffective or just plain stupid. These are things which are wrong but are not Wrong.

However, in the effort towards Cohesive Integrity we need to learn the difference between those things which are right and those things which are Right. One of the reasons that many people find it difficult to live a healthy life of integrity is that they set themselves standards within which they think that if they ever do something that is not right, that they have done Wrong. But it is only Wrong, when it is not Right.

For example: One of the signs of a healthy corporation is that the employees are encouraged to make mistakes but are fired for sabotage. In the October Issue of Fast Company Magazine, there was an article on OXO International's favorite mistakes. The reason that this company is able to be innovative is that mistakes are seen as part of the process.

Rosa Say, in her book, "Managing With Aloha," has a section in her chapter on humility entitled, "Mistakes Are Cool."

But there is a difference between a mistake and an act of sabotage. Sabotage is done because of intent to be malicious. Mistakes may not be right, but Sabotage is not Right.

In your life, are you condemning yourself for failing to always be right. You should be ashamed when you do something that is not Right, but you should not criticize yourself simply because you did not do something the "right way."

I have a major problem with those parents who punish their children indiscriminately both for those things which are wrong and for those things which are Wrong. A child should not be expected to always be wise, mature and experienced, because a child is unwise, immature and inexperienced. A parent who punishes a child for lacking experience is a very poor parent.